Monkey Bread

Our biggest success to date – delicious!

We used this recipe and it worked fantastically. I remember making monkey bread as a kid and thought it was pretty simple so I have tried many times to make it without a recipe…I highly recommend following a recipe. However I remember it being done apparently is not the best way.

The best part – it’s totally hands on for a four-year-old (as long as you wash their hands)! The recipe says to break the rolls into quarters and shake them in cinnamon and sugar. Nicky broke them into varying sizes and it didn’t seem to have a bad effect on the finished product. So we had a lot of fun making it, no fun patiently waiting, and a lot of fun eating it!

Just writing this entry has me craving some more!


Wind Chimes

What you need:

  • Paper cups
  • Scissors
  • String
  • Beads
  • Bells

I poked a hole in the top of the cup with the scissors and used twine I already had. Then I poked three or four holes (not guessing here, I poked three in one cup and four in the other) by the lip of the cup. The twine did not work there – it was too thick to thread through the beads. I went to a craft store and found some string that I hoped would work. It worked with some of our beads but not all, so I’d recommend thin string, but not too thin that it would break.

I would also not use Walmart pickup for the beads. It might be best to see them in person to determine if they’ll work. Maybe go to a craft store.

We put a bead on the string, tied a small knot underneath to keep the beads from collecting together at the end of the string. At the very end, we tied bells. It was cool, for about thirty minutes before my son ripped it apart.

So I suppose my final suggestion is to make these with a kid who doesn’t rip apart everything because he gets bored or angry.

Color Party!

Many moons ago, my son mentioned the “rainbow mom” – which was me, before I was married with kids and had run the Color Me Rad race. So I decided we would do a color party. We made the color powder which in case you want to know, super easy:

2 Cups corn starch

1 Cup water

Food coloring

I bought some cheap throwaway cake pans and mixed 4 cups of corn starch at a time. Sometimes I used more water because it made it easier to mix in the color. I wore gloves the first time to keep my hands from getting dyed but they ended up being messier so I just used my bare hands. They were dyed until I took a shower so it wasn’t permanent.  I pulled in the kids too.

When the powder dries it becomes rock hard, which didn’t seem like a good idea to give to children to throw at each other. I ran the powder through the food processor and it became some of the softest stuff I’ve ever touched. It was beautiful.

The cousins came over today and we moms got to shoot them with water guns and the hose, then we started off with throwing powder at them and then let them throw at each other.

Sadly, my child who wanted the party didn’t want to participate. He didn’t want to get wet or “colored”. But he did enjoy watching.


Afterwards we ate pizza and cake on the deck and the cousins joined hands and sang a song about being the color crew. All-in-all I think it was a success.

Now we just wait for the rain to wash it all away.


My Favorite Love Story

Found this in my drafts – thought I had published it back in February. My apologies if I already did but just don’t see it.

I was having lunch with some friends the other day and we got onto the topic of being single –somehow–can’t remember what started it because all of us are married. But I brought up something that happened to me a week or so ago. A woman at church turned to me and said something about not realizing how..old I was, or the story of Matt and I or something because she kind of interrupted herself and said she didn’t know the whole story and then somehow she got my age out of me (she’s tricky like that). We’re only four years apart and yet I have preschoolers and her oldest is 13. She said something about how old she was when she had her oldest and I said, “that’s how old I was when I got my first boyfriend.” Then she asked me something along the lines of, “what took you so long?” But in a nicer way that didn’t offend me. At the time I just said, “I was fat and socially awkward” but I keep thinking about that because I know that’s not the reason it took me so long.

Here’s the thing about being single that (some) people who were married young or married their first boyfriend/girlfriend don’t seem to quite understand, being single is not a choice we make. Here’s another thing, finding a spouse isn’t the same as comparison shopping for shoes, we don’t just browse and make a decision to buy. Rather, it’s trying to find a shoe that fits and all the stores seem to be out of our size for the moment. So what I wish I had been quick enough to say to this woman is: it’s not something I could control, but the Lord knew what he was doing and put people in my path when I needed them, for the time I needed them and when my husband and I FINALLY got together, we were both the people we needed to be.

So while at lunch I decided to tell the long, sometimes complicated story of how Matt and I got together. It really is my favorite love story, and maybe that’s just because I get to live the results of it, but it is what it is.

Flashback with me–way back to when I was 20 years old. My first true memory of being in love with Matt, I honestly can’t remember him before this memory but I must have known him because I already had a crush on him at this point. I was at church and my sister was talking to him and I was awkwardly lurking, watching but unable to speak because I only had one chance to wow him with my wit and the pressure was too much.

He worked at a pool store and there was an opening for a job there. In fact-there would only be two employees on that shift…Matt and the new person. I had no interest in pools, but I knew if only I started to work there, he would get to know me and would fall deeply in love with me, we’d get married and have kids and live happily ever after.

But that job didn’t feel right, and at 20 I didn’t recognize it as the spirit telling me it wasn’t right but in hindsight I know it now. But at the time I went with a different job and my childhood best friend (another Jessica) took the job at the pool store. She started dating him! I went back out to school in the fall and they got engaged!! And a few days after Christmas they got married! She took over my life plan! If only I had taken that job I would have been marrying him!

And it’s not like they got married and I could just forget about it, his brother was married to my sister so I saw them at family events (baby blessings, birthdays, etc) and it was a little awkward.

Skip forward a few years, I graduate college, move back to Richmond, eventually get my first boyfriend, we thought we were going to get married (obviously not) and then I “played the field” for a while. Meantime, Matt and his first Jessica get divorced and he gets set up with people (not me for some reason).

My sister would invite me over for dinner or I’d just drop by to hang out and I would get so excited when I pulled up and saw Matt’s car. At first it was like I was twenty years old and couldn’t talk to him. I don’t remember this but Matt told me that once we were eating dinner and my bil suggested Matt and I go out and I apparently objected…vehemently. I told him it was probably because I liked him and was sure he didn’t like me so I wanted to avoid the moment of him acting awkward because he wasn’t interested. We eventually developed a wonderful frienemy relationship, trying to get the newest niece to say our name first.

And in between all of that, I would be dating someone or he was dating someone. I even tried to set him up with my roommate at some point because I figured he didn’t like me like that, but I wanted him to find happiness.

Finally, my brother-in-law orchestrated a plot involving identity theft (he texted Matt from my sister’s phone) and then a little pushing (he told me just to text Matt and ask him out). Finally I texted him and asked him to “hang out” (again I was too nervous if he rejected if I straight up asked him out). But we finally went out on our first date, ten years after my scheme to get him to fall in love with me.

My brother-in-law told me not to let Matt do anything “ordinary”, so I figured we’d check out Jumpology, which if you don’t know, is a building full of trampolines. I’m sure it’s fun but when we walked in you can see the main room and there were a million kids and one very depressed looking adult bouncing on the trampolines. So we left and I suggested laser tag – I know that’s a good time. We had a lot of fun and I kicked his butt the first game. He kept asking how I was doing so well…I have no clue. I shot at anything I thought was him. Then we talked for about thirty minutes in his car before he asked if I was hungry. So we went to a late dinner where I talked a bunch and tried to embarrass him at one point. At the end of the date he pulled into my driveway, we got my purse out of the trunk (for safe keeping – laser tag was in a shady part of town) and I panicked. Instead of the customary first date hug I’d gotten used to…I gave him a high five by the car and went inside.

Shockingly, he wanted a second date. I’ve decided that he was nervous because he was not getting any of my jokes or sarcastic remarks. He kept saying, “really?” After I said something ridiculous and I began to wonder if we’d be a good fit or not.

A day or two after our second date, he sent me a text (a series of texts actually) basically telling me that he really liked me and kept thinking about me and wanted to go out with me again. I had the strangest mix of, “omw that’s adorable and I love it!” And “omw this is getting serious and I don’t know if I’m ready”. (Note: omw = oh my word).

I agreed to another date though and the day of our third date I went to the temple (already planned- it wasn’t a special trip). I prayed a lot to know what to do: date Matt, don’t date Matt. And I clearly heard, “move forward with Matt”. Not “date” but “move forward with”.

I wasn’t nervous after that. We stayed in for our third date and ordered pizza and watched The Incredibles. Except that we talked through the whole movie, stopping at our favorite parts of the movie to watch and then kept talking.

That was one of my favorite things while dating and now, almost five years of marriage. We talk all the time, about anything that interests us. And I eventually told him my pool store plan to snag him ten years earlier. And he told me he had liked me back then too (meaning when I was twenty but also when we were developing our frienemyship) but he thought I didn’t like him because I never talked to him.

And we talked about what it might have been like if that had worked. We agreed that if we had gotten together ten years earlier we may not have worked so well because in ten years we both grew and learned so much about ourselves and relationships. We appreciated each other so much more for the time and experiences of those ten years.

That’s a long way to get to the point that it comes down to the Lord’s timing and he knows what we need before we are ready to find the right person for us. Because once I got that answer about Matt things moved pretty quickly. We were (unofficially) engaged by the end of the month and married 8 months later and I have never once doubted he was the right person for me. It was like things clicked when we started dating and I realized why none of the other relationships had worked. Which is something that’s very difficult to understand when you’re in the wake of a breakup or you’re treading water (sorry, started with a water analogy and had to keep going with it) wondering if “he’ll ever come” (Micheal McLean song).

I don’t regret anything and I don’t ask myself, “what took so long?” Because I know it happened when the time was right and with the right person.

Rainbow Mom

First off – sorry it’s been so long. But – I’m pregnant and the first three months were rough! So I’m trying to get back into the swing of things, writing on here and also working on my story(ies).

A few weeks ago, Nicky started to talk about getting a “rainbow mom” and I didn’t know what this meant but since he was talking about getting rid of me in exchange for another mom my reaction was usually, “yeah, go ahead then.” …see if I care…(kinda do).  I guess I get it, I was throwing up just about every day and laying around the house and just not doing much. So he would get upset and say he wanted a new mom. But it was only a few weeks ago that the “rainbow mom” debuted.

Then the other day he mentions her again and as usual, I don’t really think much of it–I mean, it’s unique for sure, my kid is quirky so we get things like this a lot. But he kept talking and then he started to talk about a picture book with a picture of “rainbow mom”. So I started flipping through children’s books in my mind but had nothing. Then he says something about it being next to the one with the large rubber ducky and it clicked.

Many moons and another lifetime ago, I had done my first color and my sister had taken a picture on the way to breakfast of how colorful I was (and mostly because we were worried they wouldn’t let me come inside and eat). That evening, I went to the movies with my boys and outside the theater there was a giant duck so I took a picture. Both pictures were posted to Instagram and therefore, both showed up in my very first Chatbook.

It was nice to finally have a mystery solved (we’re still trying to figure out what he means when he says, “I’ve got a half back!” or “I’ve got a hat back!”

Then Nicky asks if I could be a “rainbow mom” again.

I asked, “you want me to be the kind of person I was before I was a mom?”

“Yes,” he said.

I guess I was pretty awesome back then and it wouldn’t be so bad to be awesome again – even if I’ve developed a “mom voice” and bring down the heavy hand of the law from time to time.

Partying for Partying’s Sake

Nicky has been wanting to have a party since this past summer when he read the book “Monster Party”. When I’m in the office he comes in and starts drawing on paper saying he’s making invitations.

Finally, a few days after Christmas he mentioned a party and I thought, “why not?” We have ready made party guests in the form of a bazillion cousins so not a lot of work has to go into preparation and they don’t need a lot of notice. So I decided to invite my sisters and their kids over for a pizza party.

I just made a ton of pizza dough and kept churning them out (kids can eat A LOT of pizza).

The only real work was the cake, and I took that on because I wanted to, not because I felt I needed to. I want to practice making fun cakes. After Christmas and this party I’m going on a sugar fast….starting Monday. J

Reading, Writing, Resolutions

Welcome, 2019.

2018 wasn’t a bad year for me, we moved to a bigger house, nicer neighborhood; we got a minivan, I enjoy my calling at church, my relationship with my family is good. Nothing catastrophic happened. It had its ups and downs and self pity moments but I think every year will have that sprinkled throughout. So I’m not running away from 2018 and slamming the door shut behind me – but I do love fresh starts even if there’s nothing I’m trying to erase and forget.

That being said, here are my 2019 goals. I have to point out that yes, there are ten goals again (I didn’t do that last year) but that wasn’t completely on purpose, though I did scratch out a goal because 11 seemed weird.

  1. Read 30 books (3 on writing; 3 church)
  2. Query 5 agents by the end of the year
    • Edit first draft
    • Write query letter
    • BETA readers
  3. Journal once a week
  4. Keep up with the new church curriculum
    • Hold Family Home Evening once a week
    • Share my testimony more
  5. Send birthday cards to family
  6. 12 dates with Matt
  7. Go to the temple at least once
  8. Budget better
    • Stick to the shopping list and come in under budget
    • Re-evaluate wants vs needs
  9. Get fit/eat better/stretch
  10. Organize the house (we have more space but feel just as cramped sometimes…it’s all in how we use the space).